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The cold hard truth about a commenting mindset

commenting mindset

If you want to succeed with commenting, you need to have the right commenting mindset.

This is sometimes a hard concept for people to get their heads around. I get plenty of opposition from people who are full of excuses.

The usual excuses I alway hear

"I don't have the time." – We are all time poor! It's just a matter of prioritising your time if you really want to benefit from commenting.

"I can't find any decent blogs to comment on." – You just need to create a small list of really good blogs only once, and then gradually add to it whenever you come across another good example.

"Commenting is boring." – You probably really mean it's hard work. Yes, it does require a bit of brain power, but if you make the effort it is worth it.

"The commenting culture has changed." – This is a problem of a negative commenting mindset. Commenting has changed, but this can be adapted to bring it back to the fore and make it useful once more.

Let's analyse this Twitter conversation

My plugin 'Revive Old Posts' posted this blog post out on Twitter:

To comment or not to comment, that is the question

And it resulted in this frustrated tweet:

She is mentioning two concepts here: improving her quality of writing and a lack of response to them.

I agree this is a kick in the teeth for bloggers. However, is she writing for herself, or for her readers? Is her blogging is a therapeutic activity to make her feel better after a horrible day? Or is she writing about a subject her readers enjoy reading about and have an affinity with?

You need to change your commenting mindset if you want your posts to be read and commented on. It doesn't matter if you write like Virginia Wolfe or Jackie Collins, if your readers cannot relate to what you write about, they won't feel compelled to respond.

Change in commenting culture?

Here come the excuses...

She now abandons the concept of quality to favour lack of time. Yes, we all suffer from not having enough hours in the day. Especially if you're a busy mum coping with twins.

However, it all goes back to the right commenting mindset. Nearly all of us have a smart phone that allows us to read blogs and social media updates.

It doesn't matter where you comment (see below!), as long as you do. Dexterity of thumbs is only one factor when it comes to writing a decent comment, the other is thinking of something meaningful and worthy to say.

She succumbed to the commenting mindset without realising it!

I always try and put a positive slant within my comments. There's too much negativity flying about nowadays. We all need a boost, especially when coming to terms with a new concept like an improved commenting mindset.

Sometimes all that is needed is a chance to have your say. That is what commenting really is! Rather than sitting there nodding (or frowning) silently to yourself, get out there and let the author know what you are feeling.

However, it's worth pausing at least a second to think first before responding. The time scale between these tweets lengthened as she started to contemplate her replies. She may have been doing something else in between, but that gave her time to gather her thoughts before continuing:

Look what's happened, a conversation!

You don't have to comment on blogs to have a conversation. The conversation could happen equally on social media or within a post (like this one!).

But, in spite of the time-delay in moderation, it can be really gratifying to the blog's author if someone took the time and effort to write a comment. And the best way to do this is to go out and start commenting yourself!

Put yourself in the other blogger's shoes. Imagine how they would feel to get a comment. Change your commenting mindset by getting out there and leaving comments left right and centre. Because eventually the favour will be returned on your own blog.

And if this practice was expanded upon, we'd easily revive blog commenting again.

Let me know what you think

You know where the comment box is! Go on – break the mould (and your commenting mindset) and tell me what you think, feel or whatever. We would all love to hear from you.

Please leave a comment below, we would love to hear from you!


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  • So true Alice, a very timely and useful post.

  • Paul Davis says:

    Commenting is hard work. So is building friendships with anyone. So is marriage. Parenting is pretty difficult, too. I think that building relationships is worth our time, and is worth a comment on a blog.

    • You’re right, Paul, building friendships are not easy to do. Commenting on a blog post is a good step to take towards achieving this. It’s much better to write a meaningful comment that makes someone’s day than to offer a mere ‘like’ or not say anything at all!

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