It's a good idea to try to avoid any misunderstandings when you start to comment.
Especially if you're naive like me. I have a narrow perception of the world out there. In reality it is cold, ruthless and cruel.
I'm afraid that is the nature of commenting these days – which is quite sad.
Practice what I preach
I was suggested a challenge to start commenting on LinkedIn. The objective was to get more eyeballs on your profile by contributing at least two comments a day.
Not a difficult task, I thought. So I decided to give it a whirl.
Now I had been warned about people on LinkedIn. They have a tendency to want to continuously push their business really hard.
After all, LinkedIn is a business networking platform, isn't it? It's a place to tout your business and/or services, isn't it?
Thrusting is not acceptable
This is the first of the misunderstandings when it comes to commenting on a platform like LinkedIn.
Thrusting your business in front of someone's face and shouting "Buy!" isn't networking as far as I'm concerned.
When this happens, I usually reach for the delete button.
And I wonder how many other people have the same reaction as me?
The joys of automation
Everything happened after I had updated my profile to include The Commenting Club.
This resulted in a rush of people congratulating me on my new 'job', as LinkedIn's automated system swung into action.
This annoyed me, the second of the misunderstandings. This isn't a new 'job', but an extension of my business.
However, one good thing was I was able to reconnect with an old friend who was genuinely quite interested, and wished me well. Which was very nice.
But someone I hadn't heard of congratulated me in the usual automated manner, and included his link to his business with no explanation. (This should have set my alarm bells ringing, but it failed to do so.)
I was caught unawares
So I replied, leaving a link to The Commenting Club. At least this was in keeping with the reason for the automated interaction.
He replied saying it looked quite good. Which was promising. My hopes had been slightly raised.
I asked him which post has related most to him. He replied the one with the cat. Puzzled, I noted only one post had a cat as its featured image. Further questioning confirmed he was a cat lover.
Hmmm. At this point I should have realised this was going nowhere, and should have bowed out gracefully.
Stupidly I carried on
I had forgotten I was commenting on LinkedIn and not Facebook. This was the wrong environment for such a conversation. People on LinkedIn only have one thing on their mind: to promote their businesses.
Which is immediately what he did in his next response. His love of cats kept him sane while he worked on his business. And again there was his link to his website.
What rankled me was that my club had nothing to do with cats, and he was trusting his website into my face with no connection.
This felt a bit spammy.
Then I reprimanded myself for being so foolish. Obviously this man had no intention of checking out my club. All he wanted to do was to get me to look at his website.
We both had misunderstandings
I realised we were both behaving wrongly. We were not networking in the correct way. We were succumbing to the tyranny of demanding instant gratification.
I was naive to think he would be really interested in The Commenting Club. A complete stranger out of the blue? Hardly.
His motivation was to get another person to look at his website. He even later sent a screenshot to show how successful is website was, within his industry. Which I equally had no interest in.
So this conversation had failed. It didn't even have a chance to get off the ground.
Suffering from instant gratification
We are all impatient to succeed in our businesses. Or have sales bosses breathing down our necks demanding you to close the sale right now!
However, another one of our misunderstandings is that networking is not a quick fix solution. It has to happen over a long period of time.
We have to work on our friendships, which is more than just acquaintances, to succeed in business relationships. It's the same online as it is out in the field at networking groups.
People buy from people, but only those we know, like and trust. That's not going to happen in just five minutes!
Consider commenting as online networking
Commenting is a phenomenon that usually happens staring at a screen, rather than at someone's face. This is another cause for misunderstandings.
You can't read the facial expressions of the person you're communicating with. The signals that they aren't interested or are bored are invisible.
All this has to be interpreted through a series of words.
Therefore commenting for networking reasons is notoriously difficult. We almost all fail at it in some way almost every day.
How many times have you started a conversation, only to have it fizzle out due to misunderstandings?
The best thing is to set an example
There is every reason why we should be able to succeed in commenting networking.
We need to learn to comment to find out more about the other person first. Then gradually move onto about their business and how it can help you and others you may know about.
This has to be done in very small stages. A compliment here. Showing appreciation there. Congratulating here. Asking a question there. Over a long period of time.
Gradually, as you begin to understand the other person, then you will be able to recommend their business to others if it is not applicable to yourself.
Better than offline networking?
I found going to networking meetings a time drag and a drain on my resources. It's time-consuming as having to make small talk at a lunch with totally unsuitable business people.
Most of my day was taken up driving to the venues, and the lunch costs didn't result in enough business to counteract it.
I saw the same ladies every month, graciously met new recruits, but my heart sank when I realised my 'minute' pitch was invariably falling on deaf ears.
Spend your time more wisely
You do need time to thoroughly read the post or totally understand the update, before you submit your response. But that doesn't take all day! Neither should the process of writing a constructive and valuable comment in return.
And you will have focused your efforts on a potential recipient who would be more likely to respond favourably. All you need is the right approach: sensitively, empathically and relevantly. All this would work better if this benefited everybody in the long run.
Even if it did lead only to alleviating a misunderstanding that this man was a cat lover which kept him sane while he was succeeding in his business.
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